My Mom Thinks I Need Help...

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Future of Sex

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Sex Ed the Right Way

This clip is from the movie, Milk Money, and it's one of my faves. The movie is about three young boys who don't know what a woman looks like naked so they try to buy a hooker (played by Melanie Griffith). Basically they befriend the hooker and hilarity begins. In this scene, V (that's Melanie Griffith's name) is helping Frank teach his class some sex education.

If you've never seen this movie you need to go out and rent it. You'll see from the clip just how amazing it is. Enjoy!

Hey ladies, Get with the times and grab a nudie mag!

I’m just posting a little article that I thought was HILARIOUS!

Basically, this researcher wanted to do a study on guys who haven’t looked at porn also referred to as “porn virgins”. The kicker with this is that the guy couldn’t find any! Apparently all the schlongs in Montreal have been beating their meat to the bacteria-filled pages of Hustler and Playboy since they were children-ya, we’re talking pre-teen.

Check it out, oh and ladies... maybe, just maybe, if you missed out on my post on masturbation you should scroll down the page and take a look-see-loo. Do it. Seriously. I don’t know if it’s my competitive drive, but I feel like that Gatorade commercial “anything you can do I can do better”.

LGBTQ q&a with Scarleteen

This week I had an online chat with the founder, director and designer of the website Scarleteen.com which is a site that focuses on everything sex for teens and young adults. The website is really cool because it actually allows people to connect with a “sexpert” to ask any of your sex related questions.

It’s pretty awesome, you could ask the most disgusting and perverse question and I guarantee you they will talk to you with consideration (even if you're fucked!) and try to help you the best you can.

Questions that I saw on the website ranged from “I am becoming Christian, how do I reconcile my faith with sex?” and “Did rape ruin my vagina” all the way to “How can I help my trans partner with a medical transition”. So there is no way you could ask a question they haven’t heard or can’t handle.

I spoke online with Heather Corinna who is the founder, director and designer of the website. In addition to running the website she is currently a sexuality, contraception and abortion educator. She also is a counsellor at a women’s health center and the director of a teen outreach program.

Basically, my girl Heather has her shit together and knows sex.

I decided to ask her some questions on sexuality as well as some open-ended questions about being LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered and Queer/Questioning... now you see why they just write lgbtq). Here is some of the Q&A I did with her.

What is Sexuality?
This is a very big question that doesn't lend itself to a simple answer. I mean, sexuality is, in essence interest in or concern with being or feeling sexual, but what sexuality is is made of a lot of things -- it's social, it's interpersonal, it's psychological, it's physical and physiological, it's biochemical, it's intellectual... -- and what sexuality is or is experienced as for one person can be radically different for the next.

How do you know if you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered etc?
Gender identity and orientation are different, but you can know you're gay, lesbian or bisexual the same way you can know if you're straight. You can know you're trans or genderqueer the same way you can know that you're not. Which is to say that it varies. Some people have a clear sense of these things from a very young age, others discover later, and plenty -- in terms of orientation -- may also shift through life, particularly when they're actually having interpersonal relationships.

If you’re LGBTQ, how can you make sure you practice safe sex?
There's nothing different about safer sex practice for MSM or WSW than there is for MSW. We all still have the same parts and use barriers to cover them, we all get tested the same way.
*MSM= male seeking male, WSW=woman seeking woman and MSW=men seeking women

How will someone know if they’re not a heterosexual?
No orientation should ever need to be held as a secret: we are who we are. But because anything that's not-straight has been stigmatized, we wind up in the situation you're describing of people feeling insecure and scared of their sexuality. That's not the case for everyone, though: there are people for whom being queer was never something that was a secret held, with a coming out needed, because it's something that, like any orientation, just developed over time, with conversation throughout. Alas, that's not the experience of most queer people in the world yet. But it might be, someday.

Ultimately, there is no "default" orientation. There's a whole, wide spectrum, with very few people being 100% straight or 100% gay. There's no "normal" orientation: what's normal is that range and a world of variations.

It's also normal to be confused, because orientation is a process and something we find out overtime, rather than overnight. We find out what our orientation is not just by our intuitive feelings, but by observing and feeling out our attractions and our interpersonal relationships over time.


I hope that if any of you are having questions with your sexuality you stop giving a fuck what society around you tells you is right or wrong and you go with what you think is right. You’re the only one living your life, so why go through it in misery?

Article from the Toronto Sun

I am reposting something I found in the Toronto Sun online newspaper today. I thought it was funny how relevant this is to the previous posts I wrote on masturbation. My only comment is the person writing the letter is a dummy for thinking that you're a sexual deviant if you use a vibrator... you'd be a sexual deviant if you wanted to fuck your own dog, not from using a vibrator.

Dear Robin:

Aren't there any sexually normal people left? You know, the kind who can enjoy sex year after year without the use of artificial stimulation? I know of at least one and that's me and I am just curious. -Not a Deviant.

Dear Not a Deviant:

You have posed an interesting question, one I would like my readers to weigh in on. First of all, I think we need to define what constitutes “sexually normal.” In this day and age, that could mean anything, but the traditional meaning would be one who enjoys mainstream intimacy. Then again, what defines “mainstream intimacy”? This could take a while.

Sex sells, and apparently, these days, it sells a whole lot more if it is outside the box, so to speak. From the moment we wake up in the morning and flick on the TV, get on the bus/train, open a paper or magazine, we are bombarded by sex. Women are expected to be fire engine hot sex kittens, while men are likened to Adonis, complete with buttery voices and sculpted abs. Then you wake up. There are so many enhancers and enablers out there, one doesn't even need to leave the house anymore, except maybe when you run out of ... milk.

I think people are obsessed with getting the kind of sex that is being advertised, and sometimes may no longer be satisfied with what is offered up to them. I liken it to being fed prime rib for a week straight, and then having a minute steak placed in front of you. When you consider the images thrown at us every day, is it any wonder people may start to think of themselves in that way?

Well readers, what do you think? Has sex gone off the rails? Is it a case of too much in your face, or perhaps sliding morals causing an acceptance of things once taboo?

http://www.torontosun.com/life/columnists/robin_anderson/2009/12/02/12009276.html

Sexy Time on the Phone

I thought this video on the phone sex industry was really interesting. We haven't talked about phone sex yet, but it's on my list of "things to do". Take a look, the video features a woman who works the phone when your horny boyfriend or father calls to get his rocks off.